When you decide to adopt a child and grow your family, there can be so many wonderful and beautiful moments while in process, but those times can be heavily intertwined with others where you feel lonely, overwhelmed, isolated, confused, or upset. Whether you choose domestic or international, those feelings can emerge at any point throughout the process. Whether you’re still deciding which path to choose, overwhelmed by paperwork, feeling alone in the wait, or having a mix of emotions while you navigate the trenches of parenting a child from trauma, there are adoption scripture references that can help give you the stamina, strength, and encouragement you need to press on in the fight for orphan care in the way you were called.
As a believer or one who is looking outside of their comfort zone for peace, the bible can be one of the best ways to rejuvenate your soul. As Jesus Christ adopted us into him, a hopeful adoptive parent is actively participating in the plight of orphan care as they see the Lord has called them by bringing a child into their family. But, even though you may be called to adopt, that doesn’t mean the road will be easy. The road to adoption, and even more so after your child comes home, is often riddled with difficulties. Those moments that cause you to cry out “What do I do?” or “How will I overcome this?” may pop up more often than you expect, but, this is why leaning on adoption scripture can be the most helpful way to get you back out of your worry and focused back on how the Lord can carry you on.
1. As found in many other articles about adoption scripture, peace can be found in the book of Isaiah.
Isaiah 41:10. “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.”
Those moments that seem like too much to bear, can be carried only by Him alone. Whether it is difficulties while you’re waiting for a match, trouble with travel arrangements, the sheer pain of learning what kind of trauma you child has had to endure, or anything in between, the weight of those troubles can be carried by God, your endurance can be strengthened, and you can persevere without fear.
2. Throughout the Bible, God has shown that adoption is one of the clearest ways of accepting the invitation to follow Jesus with your whole heart. God himself adopted us into a family and has thus shown his children the biblical perspective of adoption. Jesus was adopted by Joseph. Esther and Moses were both adopted and raised by those who were not connected to them biologically. If you ever wonder if the Lord has truly called you to adoption, whether you are going down the right path, or if this is where the Lord has placed you at this moment, find strength knowing that adoption is a beautiful way to portray God’s love. Read more about what the Bible says about adoption, diving deeper into adoption scripture.
Psalm 82:3. “Defend the cause of the weak and fatherless; maintain the rights of the poor and oppressed.”
3. Finding power in your journey can be a redemptive goal. Remembering that God has challenged us to fight for the fatherless and support orphan care in the way that you are called can help encourage you while you feel overwhelmed by the process.
Matthew 25:40. “The King will reply, ‘I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.’”
Adoption isn’t easy. Parenting a child that someone else gave birth to is a heavy burden to bear. Parenting a child from trauma (and trauma is found in newborns all the way up to older children) comes with its’ own array of worries, difficulties, and unexplainable issues. Take heart knowing that whatever you do for the least of these, the orphans who have taken the brunt of this fallen world, is doing the same for Jesus. Taking care of his beloved children, those who have experienced tremendous loss, pain, and grief, is one of the most important jobs we can acquire in this life.
4. When you need encouragement to keep going; to keep filling out the paperwork, to keep applying for grants, to keep track of the continuous fee sheet, to keep doing your extra learning, to read the books, to continue to reach out to your agency for updates, to travel, to live in the land of the unknown, the Lord has planned this for you. He will sustain you, and you need to hold on to the hope that he will provide.
Jeremiah 29:11. “For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’”
The adoption process can make it difficult to remain patient. Whether you’re waiting for a spouse to get on board, waiting for a match, waiting for a birth, waiting for court, or waiting for travel, there is a lot of wait. And waiting can be a breeding ground for negativity. But, continuing to put your faith in the Lord and not worrying about what will be can be unbelievably freeing. Pray through your worry, and pray through your wait.
Philippians 4:6. “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.”
6. When you’re overwhelmed by the process or the post-adoption life, remaining hopeful is key. Maintaining hope for the future is attainable by prayer. Opening up that line of communication with God and putting stock in that relationship will only encourage you to find hope in the mundane and to be patient in the wait. When others may lose faith and start to focus on the grim, the Lord strengthens you.
Romans 12:12. “Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.”
7. Galatians 6:9. “And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.”
Do not give up. The Lord has called you to this! And He will sustain you, fight for you, and help you achieve your calling. Your adoption process is good, even if it feels too hard to continue. You are embarking on a wonderful journey that will continue to grow you and strengthen you beyond what you can imagine. Continue to hold onto your hope. Even if your process is long and you become weary, do not give up!
8. Isaiah 40:31. “Yet, the strength of those who wait with hope in the Lord will be renewed. They will soar on wings like eagles. They will run and won’t become weary. They will walk and won’t grow tired.”
Open up your relationship with the Lord, lean into Him, and cast your anxieties onto Him and you will be renewed with a sense of strength that can only be explained by coming from God. The paperwork is daunting, and you are not alone in your struggles. But the Lord will give you the endurance to push through. The books, the classes, the learning opportunities can seem overwhelming, but with them, you will be so much more equipped to handle the difficulties that come with a child from trauma. Your efforts will be rewarded and you will feel more confident in your ability to parent with grace and patience. Although you will as if you are running full speed ahead into a life full of so many unknowns, you will be carried by the grace of God. You will not be left alone. He will be walking right by your side.
9. The Lord has created adoption to be a direct representative of how we are adopted into a family, full of our other brothers and sisters in Christ, with God as our father. The bible talks about adoption so many times, further supporting us as adoptive parents that we are doing good work. The Lord has called you to adopt, hence the reason you are reading this here today. He will continue to carry you through your journey. And, even though it may be covered with difficulties and there will be moments where you just don’t know how to continue on, you will. Because God adopted you “according to the purpose of his will” and He will carry you through while you adopt a child into your family. Be encouraged that your adoption journey is a portrayal of Christ’s love for us and that He will sustain you through it all.
Ephesians 1:3-6“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love, he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, to the praise of his glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the Beloved.”
10. Ephesians 6:4. “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but raise them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”
This verse is meant to encourage those who are neck-deep in the trenches of post-adoption parenting. This is for those parents that are dealing with the hitting, the screaming, the anger, the food hoarding, the lying, the manipulating, the inappropriate behavior, the attachment issues, the defiance, and the tears. Know that your child has been through trauma, many times unspeakable things, and the behaviors you’re seeing are not because of you. They are because of their past, and you are just the sounding board that is catching every emotion that is surfacing. Although you as parents have limits and may reach breaking points that you didn’t know you had, the Lord continues to encourage us to be Christ-like in our parenting. One job we have as parents is to help regulate our child’s emotions, and that starts with making sure we are regulated ourselves. If we continue to point our children to Jesus, oftentimes by pointing ourselves to Jesus first, we will be bringing them up in the way the Lord intended. That doesn’t mean that their trauma behaviors will disappear once you start reading the Bible every morning. But, what it does mean is that, if we as parents are able to maintain Jesus as the focal point in our parenting, that we will continue to be heading in the right direction, bringing our children along with us.
As much as adoption is beautiful and redeeming, it is also hard, and difficult, and broken. There are so many times that I have struggled during my own journey with adopting my son that I have sought the Lord’s words many times (though, admittedly, not often enough). They have given me great comfort knowing that the Lord is with me even in my darkest moments. Even when the trenches of trauma parenting seem too deep to swim, He is there with a life raft. Even when the wait seems too painful to continue because you’ve had multiple matches that haven’t ended with a child in your arms, know that the Lord is with you. He loves you and has a plan for you and your family.
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I pray that these help you on your journey. Whether you are adding an infant to your family, a teen, or any age in between, I pray that you can find strength in the adoption scripture found here. The Lord will provide, and you and your family will overcome.